Re: Sometimes I feel like my parents should get divorced -
October 2nd 2023, 10:24 PM
Hey there,
I'm sorry to hear that you've been made aware of the fights between your parents. Finances can certainly cause strain and lead to fights, especially when two people have differing views on how money should be handled. That being said, this isn't something that you should have been made aware of, as it isn't something that directly concerns you. Because of that, any conversation about it should have been handled behind closed doors between your parents.
Because you are aware of the fights, it's completely understandable that you might have strong feelings about the situation. Is this something that you can talk to your parents about? While it might seem uncomfortable, there's nothing wrong with asking if you can talk to both of them (or one of them privately if that's more comfortable for you) about the way their fighting is impacting you. You can let them know that it upsets you to know that they aren't happy and that you are concerned about the impact it is having on your family. In discussing it with them, you may also want to express your needs, such as asking them not to fight when they know you are around. While it might not change everything, it may make things a little bit easier for you as they work out their issues.
Are there people that you can talk to or activities that you can participate in to cope when your parents do fight? Having a support system can be extremely beneficial and can be made up of people such as other family members, close friends, or trusted adults from school, church, or your neighborhood. While talking to others about it won't necessarily change the circumstance, doing so does provide you with an outlet to express your feelings and feel heard by others. Having activities that allow you to have an emotional outlet are just as important, especially in moments when your parents are actively fighting. These could include going for a walk or jog in your neighborhood, making something creative that expresses how you're feeling, or listening to music that helps center you. At the end of the day, the most important thing is that you provide yourself with tools to help cope with everything going on in your home life.
I hope this helped some! Please feel free to reach out again if there is anything else that we can help with.
Take care,
Sam
wanderlust consumed her;
foreign hearts & exotic minds compelled her.
she had a gypsy soul
and a vibrant heart for the unknown.
-d. marie
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