To make this as condensed as possible, my mom has been having a lot of health problems over the past couple years and she seems almost to have given up trying to help herself.
In December 2021 my mom went into the hospital with low oxygen and was later diagnosed with multiple blood clots in her lungs. From this, she later found out she had cancer (which thankfully she is in remission with now) but since this hospital trip really hasn't been the same. For context, she is not in the best shape and does smoke cigarettes, which has been an obvious concern for awhile. Once she got out of surgery for her cancer, it was the first time I had ever truly seen my mother want to make lifestyly changed for herself. But, that only lasted about 2 weeks and she then fully went back to her old ways. While this is not surpising as the enviornment she lives in with my father is pretty toxic, it nonetheless worried me for her long-term health.
I just got off the phone with her tonight and the last month or so she hasn't seemed herself. Incredibly tired, low oxygen and just overall pretty lethargic, all symptoms she had with the blood clots in her lungs previously. When she told me her oxygen was in fact lower than it was when she went into the hospital the first time, I overemphasized the need for her to go into the ER, but frankly she just blew this off as she often does. Without giving the actual numbers, with her oxygen as low as it is she could very well die or be having issues that could be resolved in a hospital, but she truly does not seem to care. I told her this outright, and all she could say was "I know".
I understand the enviornment she is in isn't healthly (which is why I left home in the first place), but truly how nonchelaunt she is being about this makes me believe she wants to die, at least passively. Being far away from her about all I can do is talk to her and try to convince her, but I already know her and know that won't work as I have tried for years with other issues as well. I don't know what to do, and any advice would be greatly appreciated. I'm at a loss for what to do, so anything helps
