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Re: I want to come out as trans and gay to my mom. - April 19th 2023, 09:03 PM

Hi there,

I can definitely understand why you want to come out to your mom! Your gender identity and sexual orientation are both huge parts of who you are and it makes perfect sense that you would want to share that with people in your life.

Making the decision to come out can be really difficult when you're unsure of how someone is likely to react. I had a similar experience prior to coming out to my parents. One thing that was really helpful for me was finding ways to slip LGBTQ+ topics into conversation as a means of gauging their responses. For instance, I would bring up news stories that centered around the LGBTQ+ community or would put on a TV show or movie that featured LGBTQ+ characters. While it didn't give me a perfect understanding of what their response would look like, it did give me an indication about their general views on the LGBTQ+ community. That information really helped me decide whether or not it was safe to come out to them. Perhaps you can try something similar to give yourself peace of mind that your mom will be a safe person for you to come out to.

I hope she responds with love, kindness, and acceptance if you do choose to come out to her. Please feel free to reach out if you need anything!


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