[Starseeker]

Hi,

thanks for reaching out to us. I am so sorry to hear that you struggle with some members of your family.

It sounds like this situation and the child were forced upon you. This is not only a matter of the child being burdensome to deal with - from what you have described, her actions might be harmful to you and your surroundings (the dog, your kids). Not to mention your own physical & mental wellbeing.

This is a tough situation to be in. Oakley is not your child and not your responsibility. You should not be forced to take care of her and her upbringing if you do not wish to do so.
As I understand your only link to Oakley and her parents is through your husband. That's why I would suggest speaking to him. It is important that you stress how much of a burden this child is to you, and how you are concerned about yourself & your sons, who are also your husband's children. Try to talk to him calmly, but firmly.

If talking does not change anything, I suggest making an appointment with a legal adviser, who could provide you with some information whether there are any legal actions you can take in this situation. Such a step has to be thought through, as it might create conflict with your husband.

Whatever you choose to do, it seems that you are looking forward to spending time at your mobile home, so do it! You must have put a lot of time & effort into renovating it I hope that beautiful natural surroundings will clear your head, calm thoughts & nerves and help you make a decision that will be the most beneficial for you.

If you have any doubts or would like to talk, don't hesitate to write on the forums or send me a PM.

Wishing you all the best,
xx Sue