[oceaneyes95]

I’m praying to God that he removes my “grand-daughter” from my life. I’m 28, and my husbands 58. We have two boys together who are ages almost 7 & 8. He has two adult sons (that he actually acknowledged) and many other kids that he never had a relationship with. My husbands EX-WIFE has always raised his grand-daughter, Oakley. Oakley is 5, and will be 6 this summer. But she still behaves like she’s 2, and she still drinks from a sippy cup. She cries all the time, every few minutes, about anything & everything. Much like a teething toddler, or a toddler who just wants to be held all the time. She also isn’t in school because the Kindergarten said she was “too far behind”. Basically, Oakley is mentally challenged. But, her parents don’t want to admit to it because it’s really from substance abuse early on in the pregnancy. But, in November Oakley & her dad moved here just two houses up from us. I’ve taken on the title of “Grandma”, and on top of raising my boys without any help from their dad, I’ve also been bothered by having to deal with Oakley. As if that wasn’t already enough of a burden. OAKLEY LIES, AND STEALS. She is very manipulative by using this little “sweet & innocent little girl” act to get her way. Over the weekend she BEAT her dog with a stick pretty bad, and then tried to lie & blame it on my 6 yr old. But, thankfully, there were just security cameras installed on their home to watch the yard. It showed Oakley beating the dog with a stick & laughing about it. Then she put on this really convincing show of crying & acting to convince everyone that it was my son. Thankfully, in October I bought this little mobile home in a southern state 4 hrs away from us. I bought it really cheap because it needed A TON of work to repair it. It’s fully finished & furnished now, just in time for the Spring & Summer. It’s near a bunch of lakes, and hiking trails. Me & my boys plan on being there as much as we can through the Summer. This is why my husband was so excited to have Oakley move here to begin with. Because he thought it would stop us from separating. Because he thought I’d get attached to Oakley because she’s a little girl, and I have only boys. He thought I’d be excited to be a “Grandma”. He thought that all that would make me re-think having a life anywhere else, and that I’d give everything else up for Oakley. I had just gotten my tubes tied. So, it really just pushed us further away. I’d really rather just do my own things with my two kids, and my giant German Shepard. I also really wanted to just rant & ask for any prayers/advice. I also wanted to say that none of us HAVE to have a relationship with anyone who we don’t want to. If their abusive, or if they’re lieing/stealing & it causes chaos in your life. It don’t matter if their a grand-kid, one of your own kids, nieces & nephews. It doesn’t matter. It’s okay to not want anything to do with them. I didn’t want to be a “Grandma” at 28 anyway. It was forced upon me. I don’t want a relationship with my “grand-daughter” because of the life she’s choosing to live, and I don’t feel guilty for that. I’m praying that God removes her from our lives.