[bluerabbit]

Ennui I cannot thank you enough for your kind words and your help. I have spoken with him about the issue and how it was making me feel. He has helped me to understand why he does what he does and I now worry so much less. The truth is that he isn't using these things to cope with his issues, but more just drinks when with friends or at parties. Me being so worried was more a result of me caring about him so much and being overly obsessed with him, his life and how he is doing. He is luckily the sweetest, most understanding person I know and has helped me to manage my worries and anxiety while feeling so comfortable in bringing up either of our issues. I feel secure in his safety while still knowing that i can recognise when something is really wrong. I still worry about him loads but I'm wokring on not feeling so anxious, especially when I know for a fact nothing is wrong.