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Re: Prom should not be this stressful -
January 13th 2023, 02:18 PM
Hi there, thanks for reaching out! I can see how this can be putting a lot of stress and anxiety on you! We all want our friends and significant others to get along, and for us to not be put in the middle and be forced to choose. I'm so sorry you're experiencing this, and can I say that what your friends did when first meeting your boyfriend was a bit immature. But you're all young, and maybe your friends were just being silly for another reason and the dynamic changed in that moment when your boyfriend appeared. No matter what, I can see why your boyfriend was shut down and became quiet around them; anyone would when they're meeting a new person or group of people their significant other is close to!
I would speak to your friends about this, let them know what you appreciate about your boyfriend and — if it's applies, of course! — let them know that their behavior when your boyfriend first met them was a turn off to him and that's why he wasn't engaging. I think in any social dynamic, it's best to let the goofiness and quirkiness out after you've known someone for an extended period of time, and that's my opinion again.
I would then speak to your boyfriend and let him know how you're feeling. Would he be understanding if you went to prom with your friends and didn't invite him? Could you explain to him that you don't want to be confronted with anything awkward or embarrassing at prom if you were to bring him along with you? I don't know your boyfriend, I don't know how he'd react; but it's something to consider.
There's been instances in recent years where girls go to prom with a group of friends instead of a date; so see if that's a possibility.
Wishing you nothing but the best of luck! Feel free to reach out again if needed. 
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