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[SIZE="a"]Just as a quick disclaimer: I truly hope this doesn't come across this way but I am not truly to "slut-shame" my friend in any way. My problem is not with her actions at all but just how she interacts with me and my friends.

I am currently a junior in college and said friend and I have been friends since freshman year. Classic meet in a class and become fast-friends situation and we were on great terms until about halfway through last year. My boyfriend actually made a point that he felt uncomfortable around her because she made a lot of "I hate men, they are all the problem" jokes and he didn't feel comfortable being the only man there. It took him saying something for me to realize that she has been doing that for a long time and while it never made me uncomfortable I can see how they are problematic.

He also made a great point that night as well, saying I always seem very socially exhausted after seeing her. While I had not exactly processed it myself, for about 3 months before that when we would go on drives she would only talk about herself and never ask questions about me. On top of that, the only things she would talk about were the men she had hooked up with recently and would go on for hours about these people.

For context when all of this started, my mom had been diagnosed with stage 4 cancer and had been awaiting surgery for months. She would never ask about my mom, my school, anything unless someone else was in the room and the conversation naturally stopped. While I could have asked for help more from her, I am very bad at that and struggle to bring up my own life unless prompted to (also there wasn't exactly a convenient time to break up the sex talk to talk about my sick mother, a pretty big mood killer lol).

Within this time my grandmother also passed away. I had posted something just so I didn't have to tell people individually but when we hung out next, it was never brought up. Her father had a hernia at the time and he was recovering (well might I add) in the hospital and I helped her in this as much as I could, but when she was done being sad about that she dropped me off at my place and wished me well for the week.

I and a couple of other friends have noticed this behavior and I truly don't know what to do about it. On one hand saying something could make her aware, but it could also come off really rude and just make her mad. On the other hand if I just try to let it go, there will be an exploding point from me because I am nearing my BS threshold with her. Is it worth the conflict or should I attempt to distance myself? Any thoughts would be appreciated [/size]