[Mallika]

Hello Sue,

Thanks for reaching out! I'm so sorry to hear about this. I would feel extremely violated if I were in your shoes as well.

There's no way to justify taking pictures of someone else's diary and sending it to someone else for translation. What I can infer is that your boyfriend has a lot of insecurities if he is asking a third party to translate your diary in the first place. Such behaviour is simply unacceptable.

It's good that you confronted him about this. As mentioned by the others, writing in a diary/journalling are extremely important self-care strategies. I'm glad you find this method to be effective in releasing your emotions.

I agree with Ethereal about exercising being an incredible way to release emotions. It also comes with the die-effect of boosting your endorphins. It is my to-go method when I'm stressed and need to clear my head. The other thing I can recommend is enjoying a nice long bath - ideal if you have a bathtub. Going on a long walk also helps.

However, I sincerely hope this incident does not discourage you from writing, though I understand you'd be worried that he might open your diary again. Online blogging is definitely a good idea, but there's something special about writing on a book with a pen. If diarising your emotions gives you an outlet, I suggest continuing with it. If your boyfriend has really learned his lesson, he shouldn't repeat his mistake. If he does, then it speaks volumes about him, and we can touch base again on what to do in that situation.


Take care!