TeenHelp - View Single Post - I think I’m on the Ace Spectrum? Is there a specific term for this?

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Well, first of all, your brain gets a lot more active laying in bed awake at 1am! Especially if you've had a significant amount of caffeine later in the afternoon or throughout the evening. It's reasonable how something your friends might have said or been talking about earlier might be weighing on your mind so late at night.

Personally, it took me more than a year to come to the realization and acceptance that I was asexual. I learnt of the term during Ace Pride 2012 and it interested me; but I did not jump on board with that label immediately. Instead, after learning of the term and its etymology (and its difference from the biological phenomenon), I became more mindful of my emotions. Was I repulsive towards certain things? Did I feel indifferent? I asked myself all these questions and made notes along the way.

Then sometimes in the Spring or Summer of 2014, I came to terms with it and used the label for myself the first time.

Sexuality and identity is a long-term process. It's not something that happens, literally, overnight. Your friends said something and maybe they've just planted the seeds! But it's going to be weeks, months, even years of self-exploration to see if you truly are asexual. Also, you are right, there are different aspects to asexuality.

The other thing to keep in mind: sexual orientation and romantic orientation are not mutually exclusive!

I'm wishing you the best of luck. Should you choose to explore this further, I'm here to provide insight and support along the way.