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Re: Issues with having children -
April 6th 2022, 01:43 AM
Thanks for reaching out. I hope we are able to help.
People often enter relationships with different views on certain things. However, there are some things that it's important to be on the same page about, especially when they involve lifetime commitments, like marriage or children. You say you don't want to break up with him over this, and I respect that, but I want to point out that this is a serious incompatibility as it stands right now. You should absolutely not have children before you are ready, for many reasons, but the first being this is your body that would carry a child, and you have the autonomy and say in when and if that should happen. No partner should ever decide the timeline for that for you.
This is something you know is not right for you in the same amount of time it is for your boyfriend currently, and that means having a frank talk with your boyfriend about it. If you feel this is a relationship worth staying in and pursuing, which it sounds like you do, you will need to make your position clear, and ask him where he stands. If he is absolutely unwilling to budge on this matter, I would sincerely think about whether or not this is the relationship for you. Even if you did acquiesce to his wishes and have a child, or children, before you were ready, it would alter the relationship you have with him forever, and that would not be good for you, him, or said children.
First, though, try and communicate with him about this. But it is important you are absolutely on the same page if you are going to continue to pursue this.
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