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Re: Issues with having children -
March 23rd 2022, 01:02 PM
Hey there, thanks for reaching out. I don't blame you for not wanting to have children until you're in your late 20s or early 30s; it gives you some time to be an adult, to complete your education, and to establish a career. A lot of young people are choosing to have children within this age range, and it's been a trend for a while; so you definitely aren't alone here and I hope this helps.
I don't think a guy, or anyone for that matter, having their first child in their 30s is "too late" or any kind of issue. This kind of thinking is archaic, and perhaps you can sit down with your boyfriend to discuss this with him. Have you explained to him the reason for you wanting to wait until you're 28-30 to have children?
I don't want to tell you what to do; but if he is firm on his decision to have children in the next year or two, I think it would be a good idea for you to take a step back and determine what you should do. Is it worth staying with someone who won't change their mind or hear you out? Is it worth staying with someone who won't be open to any sort of compromise - such as adopting a pet in the meantime? Perhaps you can discuss this with your friends and family as well, get an idea of what they think about this.
Wishing you the best of luck! Feel free to reach out again if you need to.
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