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Re: Lonely - March 12th 2022, 04:33 PM

Scout,
thanks for reaching out to us here.

I'm sorry to hear about your situation. It must be hard and hurtful for you feeling that way.

Some friendships fade over time - not all of them, but many, especially if people who used to be together often part ways later on due to different life events. I understand you still feel the need to spend time with your friends and it's upsetting when they don't. However, I wouldn't necessarily assume that you are the reason. There's likely some other explanation - perhaps they have found a new hobby? They have a new partner and spend most time with them? New job, new school, university classes? Perhaps they have a new circle of friends, too, but it doesn't have anything to do with you personally - people grow and change, and they might feel the need to integrate with a different group.
What I would suggest for you now is trying to find some new acquaintances and contacts for yourself. Don't stick to your old friends only - it's fantastic to maintain old friendships, but meeting new people it's exciting and full of opportunities, too! How about joining some kind of extra classes (sport is very integrating, but you could try art or board games or whatever suits your needs). You could also try some therapeutic groups - they are sometimes free where I live, perhaps it's similar in your area. It's a good time to volunteer now to help the Ukrainians - you can meet many great young people taking part in such initiatives (if it is in agreement with your worldview, of course).

I hope you feel better soon!
Take care
xxx S


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