I have been dating this guy for about three months now and this has been my first real relationship with real, true feelings. We recently got into a fight and it very much rubbed me the wrong way. I had gotten frustrated with him about something seemingly small, and he blew it out of proportion greatly, making it sound like I was the worst person in the world and saying I "couldn't talk to him like that" (I didn't talk to him in any disrespectful or rude tone, was just expressing frustration). It felt like he was gas lighting me into thinking I had done the most disrespectful thing, and it felt very reminiscent of how other people have been in my past. When I get angry at him, I still show him respect but it didn't feel he was doing that with me when he was angry.
He then yesterday said we should take a break for a bit while he cools off. This also came off as very frustrating because he has done much worse (not cheating but close) and it was the expectation that I forgave him almost on the spot. It just feels like there are very different expectations of me vs him and it doesn't seem right.
While those are large negatives, there are many, many positives that are making me want to stick around and kind of move on from this. He has done so much for me and spending time with him always gives me a sense of comfort and happiness. We have gotten so close over the course of us knowing each other that he's more than just a boyfriend, he is now a really good friend of mine and it scares me to think that would all be gone. He's been a big part of my life coming back to college and I am so scared to lose that. While I can see the wrong he's done, I want to be able to forgive him. But, I have talked to a few close friends and they've all said the same variation of me leaving would be the best for me. But, I'm not ready to give up yet. Any advice on the next best move? Anything is appreciated
