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So a friend of mine just moved in with her boyfriend. Their relationship is currently very strained and they keep having a fair amount of arguments. Her boyfriend has also apparently been cheated on in the past so that adds to the issues they have. Recently she got a message from an old fling/boyfriend and decided to reply. They started chatting back and forth and even met up a couple of times since she works in the same location as he does.

Now, to me the whole situation is a terrible idea. Even though her meeting up with this other guy is in innocence, she doesn't see what I see. I've spoken to two other people about this and they both see how much of a bad idea the whole thing is as well.

I understand that she's meeting up with this guy as a sort of escape because of her strained relationship, but it's just not a good look. She keeps telling me she'll stop talking to him but feels bad for doing so, and that it's not easy.

Maybe I don't see things her way, but to me, she was the one who replied to his message in the first place. That was her decision. She could have ignored it but she chose not to. She told her boyfriend she met up with this guy once. I have no idea what his reaction was apart from too busy watching TV or something. But the whole thing just seems like such a terrible idea.

If I had a partner who kept messaging their old one, or would go out of their way to meet up and hang out with them, I'd feel a bit uncomfortable. I'd feel very insecure especially if I've been cheated on in the past. Again, even if it's all in innocence and she herself knows this. Her boyfriend won't see it that way.

Maybe I'm overreacting here, but I don't know.