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Originally Posted by Ambedo.
First things first, I want to express how truly sorry I am for the pain and abuse that you have had to endure. Trauma of that sort can be incredibly difficult to deal with and I'm proud of you for reaching out to us here and doing your best to move on with your life. I don't know if you realize it, but those are incredibly brave things to do.
When it comes to your current partner, I would recommend voicing some of your concerns to him. What happened to you is deeply personal and you don't need to share everything with him all at once. But, since it sounds like it is having an impact on your comfort levels with intimacy in the relationship, giving him a little bit of insight could be beneficial. Even just saying something along the lines of "I would like you to know that, in a past relationship, I had extremely negative experiences, especially with intimacy. I don't want to go into details just yet, but I'm struggling right now and think it would be beneficial for us to take a step back from that part of our relationship right now. It's important to me that you know that, as I don't want you to think it has anything to do with you. I care about you and I want us to be able to move forward in a healthy relationship but, to do that, I need to allow myself to heal too" could do a lot. True, he may have questions, but remember that you only need to share what you feel comfortable with. It sounds like the two of you have a solid relationship, so I'm sure he will be understanding and respectful.
Regarding your family, I think it's great that you have a plan to remove yourself from them once you're able to. I can imagine how much keeping all of that in is weighing on you though. Have you thought about reaching out to a trusted person in your life? This person could be a friend, teacher, coach, pastor, etc. Depending on whether or not it's something that is accessible to you, you might also want to consider seeking therapy. Doing so will allow you to talk about your situation in a confidential, safe environment, as well as begin the process of healing and learning techniques to combat the effects your family has had on you. If none of those are options for you, you are of course always welcome to share your story with us here on TeenHelp. Feel free to message me directly if you're not ready to write it all out in a forum. I would be happy to listen if that's more comfortable for you.
Remember, healing takes time and you are so strong for already beginning that process. Take care and please keep us updated.
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