Hello, and welcome. I am glad you felt comfortable posting. There's definitely a lot to explore here, regarding both gender and sexuality. I will say it definitely sounds like you are sexually attracted to men. There's a difference between sexual orientation and romantic orientation, so that's something to keep in mind. Sexual orientation denotes the gender(s) of who (if anyone) you want to be physically intimate with. It sounds like that definitely includes men, and used to include women. Sexuality can change a lot over time, so I don't know if you are definitely gay, but yes, you might be.

As for romantic orientation, that denotes the gender(s) of who (if anyone) you are romantically interested in. It sounds like that includes women, but you don't know yet if that includes men, which is totally okay, too! I mean if we're going by a snapshot of where you are right now, based solely on what you're reporting here, I would say you are most likely homosexual and hetero, or possibly bi/pan, romantic.

I do want to touch on gender and relationships a bit here, too, just to give a little more information. It's totally cool to like wearing the clothes that are typically associated another gender. You can still identify as male and wear women's clothing, and you can still be straight (though it doesn't sound like you are; I just want to say this publicly) and a male and like having things inserted inside your anus. That doesn't make you gay at in and of itself. I don't want to overwhelm you, but I will say some people who start out with an interest in wearing women's clothing go on to question their gender eventually. You may or may not decide to do this, and whatever you decide in that regard is okay. I just wanted to mention that, in case it's something you eventually decide to explore.

One reason I mention that is you say you desire to be with a male "in the female role." Typically, especially in gay culture, those involved take away the words "male" and "female" because they aren't really descriptors of what that person actually wants so much as people are referring to what are considered typical gender roles, where the "male" is dominant and the "female" is submissive.

So instead in such interactions (again, especially among gay culture), the terms used are "Top" and "bottom." These terms have gone on to have multiple meanings to multiple people, but for our purposes here we will use them in their simplest form: the "Top" is generally the the person performing an action and the "bottom" is the one receiving. I've been very roundabout, but when you say the female role, I want you to have a better understanding so you can decide whether what you mean is you want to be the "bottom" in the scenario, or whether you actually have an interest in explore the idea of identifying as a female and actually taking on the *gender* role of "female" with a male partner.

I know I've thrown a lot at you, and I apologize if everything I said was overwhelming. If you have questions or concerns I can try and simplify some of it. The thing is, though, really only YOU can decide what you are. I know that can be difficult. There are so many labels and gender and sexuality are such complex things it is very tempting to want someone more educated or experienced than us to simple say, "yes, you are x," but in the end it doesn't really work that way. You have to decide what you feel you are and what labels you choose to describe yourself with, if any.