[Starseeker]

People are often too harsh on themselves. Most of us tend to feel guilty or inadequate, and frequently have negative thoughts about ourselves.
I've realised recently that I would never say most of the things I say to myself to a friend, a family member, or even to a stranger. I created this thread for all of you to try: instead of being harsh on yourself, write down what you would say to your dearest friend, were they in the same situation.
And then say that to yourself.

I will start.
I was supposed to go volunteering abroad, but I called it off because I'm too scared. I feel like a coward.
If my friend told me this, I would say to her:
You're not a coward at all. You had a great idea of going abroad and you thought you could do this - that's already a success. It's okay to change your mind and you might not be ready for that yet. Maybe you will be in some time and then you will overcome your fears.