[Everglow.]

Hey there

Thank you for reaching out about this. In short, I absolutely don't think anything is wrong with you at all. I'm an aromantic asexual and I have felt a lot of what you're describing, but I know that there are people who are not aromantic or asexual who have also found that romantic attraction and sexual attraction just don't happen as often for them as it does for other people. There's nothing wrong with that at all. You don't have to be unwell physically or mentally, or have been through sexual assault, to experience this, and regardless of who you are attracted to or not attracted to, you'll never not be normal.

It is possible that you could be aromantic or asexual, but I think whether you want to put a label on this or not is entirely your own choice, so don't feel the pressure to do that if you're not looking to. Either way, people who don't experience crushes or sexual attraction are fully capable of still entering into a romantic or sexual relationship, and it's very possible for you to still meet someone who you can feel the same way as. As long as you are honest and open about what you're comfortable with, and they are open with you about what their needs are, it's completely possible to have a healthy relationship which could involve romance and/or sex. The main thing is that whatever you're doing, is something you're comfortable with and want to do. Don't feel like there's any pressure whatsoever to be romantically or sexually involved with anybody you don't want to be. There's a lot of emphasis on this out there, but in reality, it's not that big a deal if it's not something you're into right now.

I hope this helps to validate how you're feeling. If you want to talk at all, I'm happy to help so feel free to shoot me a message any time you like. As I say, a lot of what you've written sounds very very familiar to me, so I'd be happy to chat!

I hope you're doing okay.