[Mallika]

Hello there,

Thanks for reaching out!

Like the others have already mentioned here, I would also suggest that you have to set some boundaries with him. It appears that you're not entirely sure if he's in another relationship or not. It would be a good idea to directly speak with him about it. There's nothing wrong in being open about how you're feeling regarding this relationship. And by having an honest conversation with him, you'll also get an idea of what his intentions are - you mentioned that he might be "using" you. Speaking about how the both of you want to carry this relationship forward might give you a clearer picture of how serious he is about this. You can also talk about things you're comfortable with and not comfortable with around each other.

Like Eli said, if you prefer to have his long-term friendship as opposed to being his girlfriend, it's important that you verbalise it to him clearly.

Taking a stand for yourself is the first step towards breaking free from guys who might be using you. Feel free to PM me if you have any questions!