I recently started going out with this guy and he within the past year lost his mother. Because I met him recently, I find it hard to know what he needs for me and don't want to overstep where I am not welcome. I have never gone through the loss of someone that close to me and even though I have gone through similar things, I can't support in a way that feels productive.
He has been pretty distant over the last few days and I don't know whether to keep the distance and follow his footsteps, or see what he needs. because this is fairly new, I don't know what exactly he needs ( or doesn't need/want) from me. Even though everybody is different and needs different things, I am open to any and all advice on the situation.
Because it is fairly new, there is always the option to end things now so he can truly work through what he needs to. Even though I don't think that's what either of us want, is it what he may need? I feel I can sometimes aid as a distraction from the problem and even though he is open and honest about his feelings surrounding it, he often goes days with little contact because he "needs time to figure it out himself" which I can completely understand. But, I don't see myself as helping in a productive way at this point and because I care about him, I can see that what he may need is to figure it out on his own.
I truly am at a loss with this. I don't have much experience with relationships in general so this is very much uncharted territory for me right now. Any and all advice is appreciated
