[Everglow.]

Hi Zoe

I'm sorry that you've had all of these worries going on with your friends and the possibility of being outed without your consent. Nobody should ever threaten or act on outing another person without their consent as the situation can sometimes be unpredictable, as you say. Your friend was definitely in the wrong to assume it was her right to out you to anyone. It should only ever be something done on your terms. Your feelings about this are completely justified.

I agree with Sarah in that there could be some hidden reason behind your friend all of a sudden wanting to tell her parents about this. Perhaps it was panic at a change of prom plans, or perhaps it is something else. I guess the only way to know for sure would be to ask, but with everything that has happened so far I could completely understand you not wanting to do that. I think reasoning aside, the way she acted was very unfair and has the potential to be very damaging, and if you choose to distance yourself from this friend you have every right to do so. The choice about that part is always going to be down to you, and your decision doesn't have to effect the decisions your partner and other friends make. I think it's healthy to talk to them about how you feel, and just let them know your situation. Explain to them that you're not trying to come between them and your friend, and that you simply feel like you need to talk it over with someone, and that you respect they may not feel the same way as you do.

The fact you arehaving panic attacks as a result of this clearly means you have been effected deeply by this, so talking is a good option. It helps to get it into the open and out of your head, and hearing other peoples input, who know the situation, might help you clarify what you want to do going forward. I think so far, you've handled it all really well given the circumstances, and whatever you choose to do will be based off of what is best for you and everyone else.

If you want to talk at all feel free to message me. I hope you're doing okay.