[Dawn.]

Hi there,

The only advice I can give you is maybe suggesting that your friends talk to each other as T may not have realized the impact of his words or behavior have had on J. Sometimes I can be like T whereby my words and tone of voice can come across very differently as to how I want it to be. Only after someone has said something to me have I understood that what I said and how I said it was inappropriate and hurtful, to which I then apologized.

I hope this helped.