[Mallika]

Hello!

It's great that you work in a job that helps people advocate for themselves. It is very understandable why you are feeling this way regarding advocating for yourself, given the circumstances about weight issues or ED.

If not a friend then, would there by any other individual with whom you and your husband be more comfortable visiting the gynaecologist with? Perhaps a parent, or a cousin? These matters are no doubt awkward to be discussed with friends, but if a closer relative like a family member might be able to understand where you are coming from and advocate for you, that might go a long way, especially if it will ultimately benefit you in terms of seeking the form of treatment you prefer best.