[Mallika]

Hi there,

Thanks for reaching out! I think Eli has raised some great pointers already. I'll try to give some more advice.

I would consider the element of maturity when it comes to boys. From personal experience, there have been multiple times whereby I helped a male friend or acquaintance about something related to school/work, and the person took that as an opportunity to flirt or ask me out when I wasn't even interested in heading that direction. It is frustrating after a while, and I completely understand why you are feeling the way you do. From my experience, as guys become more emotionally mature, they tend to begin making a distinction between having platonic and romantic relationships.

Unfortunately, in this time and age that we live in, boys are also under much peer pressure when in comes to being in relationships. That might explain why they are so "desperate" to ask people out.

What is most important, however, is that you stick to what makes you comfortable. If you feel a guy's advances are inappropriate, you don't have to entertain his conversations or interactions. If a guy has blocked you because you didn't want to be in a relationship with him, don't blame yourself. You are not responsible for how others process rejections, and therefore, you are not obligated to contact him or apologise or anything.

Trust me when I say this - there are good guys out there. There are guys out there who will cherish your company as a friend and not try to make your companionship into something along the lines of a relationship. They do exist, though they might not be in our vicinity yet. You might eventually meet such people in the future.

Hope this clarifies! Feel free to PM me if you have any questions!