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Hey Dez

Our maman got burnt out so acutely that she gave up modeling for many months. Worried for her, Julie and I talked about how we could help her find motivation, so we drew up a list. Easy stuff. And as you relax as you've been trying to take stock, here are some suggestions that may help you like it helped maman find her life again.

Connect: Reach out to those who enhance positivity and optimism in your life. These could be your social support system like family, friends, buddies, even neighbours you like to talk to.

Disconnect: Stay away from people who sap your energy, stress you out, pick your faults, judge and criticise you adding to your worries and apprehension. It only lowers your mood and outlook.

Find meaning: Choose a hobby; maybe a charitable cause, volunteer for animal charity or a medical charity, whatever feels close to your heart, though will keep you safe during these covid days. When you give, the vicarious meaningfulness you observe in another’s happiness uplifts your mood. When we saw how our maman reacted so happily, we knew she was improving, though we gave her lots of time and treats, like homemade chocolate truffles or a bunch of pretty freesias. Even having flowers around your home will brighten your mood with their delicate aroma and colours.

Time Out: If something is not working, take a short break from it. Be it your routine in building or your relationship, or even children (if its possible to have a relative or friend watch them.) This does not mean running away from responsibility. It simply means you need to replenish your energy in that little time to feel rejuvenated again.

Seek novelty: Do something you haven’t done before. No not drugs or anything illegal. Pick a new hobby, sport, game, music, dance, fitness regime or comfort food. Anything novel stands a chance of releasing dopamine or the happiness chemical in the brain and makes you feel better. Or even a weighted blanket. We have one and it is wonderfully comforting. We bought one for maman to help her sleep. And it really did!

Heal Yourself: A healthy mind resides in a healthy body. So a good antioxidant rich diet such colorful raw foods, juices, coconut water, smoothies, nuts and fruits should make space in your plate. Not forgetting a nice mug of good tea. Also sleep enough, exercise a few times a week to suit yourself, and maybe if you are able, practice some yoga, meditation and a relaxation ritual.

Burnout is not the end of the world. You just have to believe that with a little time and committed effort, your feelings gradually get better.