[ladoglover]

I would ask your therapist to talk to your parents. I get it trust me. My parents are the same. They do not know how to talk properly in situations. They get mad at me if I go to the mental hospital, saying its too expensive and your fine so just come vent to me at home you will be alright. Its invalidating and hurtful that they don't take my emotions and feelings seriously and invalidate them by acting like im just being over dramatic or something when Im not. Also, with cutting when I was cutting. They did not respond in the right way either. When I was a teenager and was doing it I didn't tell them. But then my mom found out some how and responded in the wrong way to knowing I wanted to cut. It was hurtful, invalidating an there was no empathy or compassion.

Oh and also it sucks again how weird and hurtful my parents are that a long time ago when I was in my early 20 and was seeing therapist if I said I wanted to kill my s elf the therapist would call the cops to my house JUST FOR A CHECK UP they didn't take me to the hospital nothing. My parents got all mad about that saying OMG the cops are at are house what did you do ,why would you say your going to k yourself when you aren't. Again no compassion, no validating, no caring , no empathy and them being weird because why is it a big deal the cops come to are house when its just to check up whats the harm in them just coming to see if im alight . SO that hurt too how weird and mad they got just for cops coming to the house to check on me thats it, check on me and then they leave. I learned because of my parents not to say im going to k myself ever again to a therapist as the cope would be called and if living with my parents they will get mad.

My parents, I do not know if yours are the same. But my parents they refuse to change there ways its so hurtful and annoying so for me geting them to talk to the therapist was pointless as they refuse to change their ways its annoying. But if your parents are the kind that seem to be wiling to change if given the right tools and parenting skills then it wouldn't hurt to ask your therapist to talk to them. It could be as simple as having your therapist talking to your parents over the phone instead of over zoom or in person. Your therapist could just make a phone call to your parents. You should explain to your therapist that you want her or him to tell your parents how to respond in a better way to you and to respond in a more validating and caring way. Your therapist can give your parents the tools and skills to do that.