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Re: I'm coming out to my family as trans - December 2nd 2020, 02:39 PM

Coming out is never easy and I'm sad you have been, and are, going through so much personal, emotshunal pain. It sucks.



Take your time about coming out. None of us should feel pressure becusase it's unfair. You are not like anyone else,m but you so come out if there comes opportunity.



So many peeps are at this crossroad, but there comes a good time when all is quiet and you are alone with one member of your fam. That could be the perfect time. But be chill about it for now. Don't get wound up as it's easy to overthink. Better still make a nice cuppa tea. A cup of tea solves everything.



When I came out, surprise to me thta my mum said she always new. Oooh I remember thinking, how awks is that? How did she know? But mums hvae this way of knowing. Uncanny isn it?


Tawk to the parent who you feel easiest with. That can make a big diffrence. Otherwise, there may not be anyone who will take it well. That's life I'm sorry to say. Now, if that happens, let thems boil off and don't shout back. Let them rant their bit, blow off steam, rant more, but be guarded that family members can act making you feel guilty.


-That is a form of emotional manipulashun. Ignore it. You hvae no need to be made to feel guilty for having gender dysphoria and wanting to change your sexual identity. You are what you are, plain and simple. And if they don't like it, just walk away and use silence so they can give thouhgt to how they treated you.


Often a silent gentleness is all that is needed. Family may take things hard as you tol, but be payshunt with thems. Let them hvae all the time they want before returning to hug you.


And given time, hug they will.


My best wishes to you.
Happy days,
Wendi