[Oneirophobia]

Hey ther Jeff1,

First off, This is a normal body function, and there should be no shame, or guilt, for wanting to do those things.
There are plenty of ways, trying different things. Depending on how old you are, and if your in a serious relationship, or just a one night thing, if thats your thing.
Just make sure consent is there.
Never feel guilt or shame for having these feelings, there natural and everyone has them, if your not ready to do more than your doing, try doing something different.

I'm sorry if this wasnt helpful.
- Christine.