[Mallika]

Hi Eli,

Thanks for reaching out!

I too think it is a little strange that she'd send you this letter out of the blue, when you haven't been in contact with your ex all these years. It somehow makes me think that she had some incident in her relationship with him that pushed her to do this. I don't know what that would be though... perhaps she sent this letter as a way of reassuring herself that she is in a happy relationship with him, because internally she might be insecure about it? After all, as you mentioned, there might be some darker elements to their relationship, especially since she mentioned about the cold treatment. We can only speculate.

But as the other users have mentioned, you know the reality about your relationship best. If he abused you, that is the truth, and no one can change it. Even if he's a god to his current girlfriend, that doesn't change the fact that he hurt you. Therefore, she telling you know that "he really loved you" is not going to nullify his actions. I agree with your friend that he has the wrong notion about his feelings - if he really loved you, he wouldn't have treated you abusively.

It's good that you've blocked her now. Your time with him is done - you are free to post whatever you want now. You shouldn't have to be indirectly controlled by his stalking and spying on you through her.

I hope that she will not reach out to you with these sorts of disturbing messages. I also feel bad for her in a way, but you shouldn't have to feel cornered any more now. It's your life, and you can live it the way you want.

Take care! And feel free to DM me if you'd like to chat about anything!