[Celyn]

Hey there,

I can imagine how weird that hearing from your abusive ex's current partner can be for you, especially if it's lead to you questioning things.

I think it's important for you to trust your feelings. If you felt that what you went through was abusive, then that's your reality. Just because someone else is happy with your ex, it doesn't make him any less abusive, or his actions towards you any less abusive. It can also help to remember that abusive people may be able to be 'nice' to some and abusive to others, which is what can make abuse difficult to identify. But just because someone is able to be loving towards someone else, it doesn't mean that they were never abusive to you.

In less common circumstances, there is a chance that the abuser could've genuinely loved the other person and may not have realised their behaviour is considered abusive. However, even if this were the case, it is ultimately up to you and how you feel. If you don't feel that your ex is capable of love and was abusive towards you, then that's your reality. What someone else says or does shouldn't impact on that.

I understand the paranoia of feeling stalked, especially if you are concerned this person may be passing off information to your ex. If you don't want to be rude, you may want to see if there are other privacy options or maybe avoid posting personal things. Alternatively, setting up a second anonymous account could be an option. However, if these aren't options and you don't feel safe, then there's no reason to feel guilty over blocking. You're understandably scared over this situation, you have suspicions that she may be passing on information to your abusive ex and feel that you cannot write any more posts about him. You have a right over who see's your information and who doesn't.

Hope this helps a bit