I'm trans (non-binary) and I've been socially and medically transitioning for about two months now. It's going REALLY well. I have lots of social support from my therapist and my friends, and, of course, the clinic prescribing my hormones. This past weekend I came out to my sister. I was hesitant to come out to her. I was pretty sure she would be open and accepting, but I held on to the letter in which I told her what was happening with me for a month. I'm really glad it went well. It's good to know someone in my family understands.

Because I've been on T for a while and noticeable changes will be happening soon, she advised I tell my parents soon, maybe by the end of this week. I went ahead and wrote a letter to them and I'm waiting to send it until my sister proofreads it and I feel comfortable. My sister confirmed my feeling that my parents are probably going to struggle with this. They're going to ask questions out of a place of caring and love but those questions might seem hurtful or invalidating. She also said this is probably an ongoing conversation and won't be resolved quickly. It's going to take time.

I just want to see if y'all have any advice on coming out when you know your audience isn't going to be very receptive. What do you say to make it easier for them, to explain your choices/reasoning, and deal with anxiety and anger? If you're given an ultimatum (like "stop taking hormones or we aren't going to support you anymore") how do you handle that? I am very scared my parents are going to ask me to stop taking hormones or else they'll withdraw financial support and I can't make it on my own. I don't want to lose their emotional support, either; I love my parents very much and that would hurt deeply. So how do I go about doing this?