[Mallika]

Hi Maddie,

I'm so so sorry that all of these difficult things are happening to you all at once. It's scary how life can strike us like a sledgehammer sometimes, but hey, that's what life is.

You are pretty young, and assuming that your ex-boyfriend is around the same age as you, please be rest assured that teenage boys are pretty erratic. Indeed, most boys only understand what it means to be in a committed relationship once they are around 23-24 years old. It's not your fault that your boyfriend wanted to break up with you; he seems to want to sort out some issues of his own. Break-ups suck with a capital S, but trust me, you're not alone. Thousands of people all over the world are going through horrible heart-breaks. It is something we all have experienced or will experience, and we understand how you're feeling. You will no doubt feel very hurt, confused, upset and angry, so take your time to acknowledge and process these emotions. It's natural to feel this way, but trust me, time DOES heal all wounds. I've learned it the hard way; I manage to move on from someone I had deeply loved for years. You will make it through this heart-break.

So, take this as an opportunity for self-growth. You're just 15, you have ample things to get up to. Do those things you love to do - be it dancing, arts, sports, reading. Do well in school, make good friends and enjoy your teenage life. Singlehood is indeed bliss. One thing I will warn you though is, don't rush into another relationship to fill the void of this past one immediately. It will not give you enough time to reconcile your broken feelings from your previous relationship and leave you more upset. Rather, take your time to get over this break-up and you can subsequently think of dating you want to (not because you have to).

I'm also very sorry to know that your parents are getting a divorce. It must be such an overwhelming time, and at times like this, you need someone for support. Is there any reliable adult you can share your emotions with? Perhaps a teacher at school, or a guidance counsellor? Perhaps you have an aunt or neighbour you can confide in? Find that person and speak to them. Releasing your pent up emotions will make you feel a lot better. Remember to stay strong; it's always darkest before dawn, and soon better days will come. Think of your position in one year's time - you might be in a much better place emotionally. After all, when the going gets tough, the tough get going. Amidst this very difficult period, perhaps you might want to look for a silver lining? Find something that motivates you so that it keeps your mind optimistic about everything that's happening. You will weather this storm

If there's anything you'd like to chat about, I'm all ears. Feel free to drop me a PM