[Everglow.]

Hey

As someone who identifies as aromantic I can definitely understand a lot of what you're going through. The spectrum for romantic orientation is difficult to understand but, as the post above says, remember you're young and there's no huge rush to know for sure what you are right now. I went through a tonne of labels before I found one that fit when I was about 21 - it happens for everyone at different speeds and that's ok.

I've been doing my own research about aromanticism and I have been in online groups with greyromantic people and other people who fall somewhere on that spectrum. I'm not super knowledgable about it all, but I have recently heard a lot about something called a queerplatonic relationship, which is essentially a relationship on the border of platonic and romantic. There are people out there who are in one of these and who are happy, so it's not impossible to fint that companionship you want and be greyaromantic.

It's also important to know that as you get older you're going to meet more people who don't put relationships at the top of their priority list. I've been surprised by this myself and if anything it's just a little token of hope for you that you may find a friend who you're entirely non-romantic with who you will have as a companion regardless. There's nothing wrong with living with friends, sharing a space, a meal, even a life, if that is what makes you and your friend happy.

I'm not saying that either of these will necessarily work for you, or even that you are, or aren't greyromantic. But I just want you to know that it's possible to be happy, to have those things you want without necessarily doing it in a conventional way.

Please feel free to reach out if you have any questions. Like I say, I don't know loads as I'm still on this journey myself, but I'm happy to chat and listen if that will help. Whatever label you do or don't decide fits who you are is valid and acceptable and amazing, and I hope that you know you don't need to rush into figuring it out.

Take care!