[Mallika]

Hi,

You shouldn't allow guys to touch you, even if you feel good about it, simply because it's inappropriate and can give way to worse things down the road. What might seem like harmless caressing of the breasts now could lead to boys molesting you when you don't want them to. If that sort of situation happens, they might just say that you were "asking for it" and that "you like it anyway". You are putting yourself in danger, that's why. Besides, your body is not a toy for them to play with, and therefore it's just so important that you don't allow yourself to continue engaging in this sort of behaviour with them. It might seem racy and exciting now, and perhaps make you popular among the boys, but these days might come back and haunt you with embarrassment when you're older and more mature. When you're older and are with a partner who respects you and your body, you can think of consensual intimacy.

As to when you can have sex, you should only engage in sex when you're of legal age. I don't know which country you're based in, but in most countries, this is between 16-18 years old. Even when you're of legal age, you don't have to have sex just for the sake of it. You need to first understand what having sex entails, the consequences, contraception, etc. (which you'll soon learn about in school) before you can make an informed choice about it. I suggest you don't worry about sex now at all, you're waaaaay too young.

I understand that at your age, you'll be really curious about sex and all, but for the reason mentioned above, it shouldn't propel you to actually have sex - both heterosexual and homosexual (like what appears to have happened with your best friend L). Masturbation is something you do by yourself, not with someone else. While masturbation is a much preferable option compared to sex with a partner when you're so young, remember that it's a form of addiction at the end of the day. You'll get hooked on to it, which might distract you from other things like your studies. If you're feeling horny, you can perhaps use it as an opportunity to read up about sexuality and puberty. Educating yourself on these matters will be helpful too. That is a much more healthy pursuit compared to watching porn or letting others finger/have sex with you. Here are some useful links: https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/teens
https://www.adolescenthealth.org/Res...r-Adolesc.aspx

Don't worry about whether you're attracted to boys or girls; the stuff that you engage in at this age will make you feel excited in any case, whether you do it with a boy, with a girl or even with yourself (i.e. masturbation). Hence, how you let yourself get pleasured is not a parameter to decide your sexuality/sexual orientation; that is something you will realise only as you grow older.