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Re: Just found out I'm adopted -
June 18th 2020, 05:53 PM
Hi there, I am so sorry you had to find out in such an unexpected way. I can't even imagine how you must be feeling, knowing that your parents—the people that adopted you—kept this from you your whole life and then tried to cover it up when you saw the papers. I don't blame you for being hurt and feeling betrayed.
However, as it has already been said, you shouldn't be too harsh on your parents. You need to consider why they kept this from you, and they were probably planning on telling you when you were older and they knew you were mature enough to handle the news. It's a lot to take in, and especially for someone as young as you.
Ask yourself, why did they keep this from you? Maybe you were born in an unfortunate situation and your parents—the people that raised you so far—decided to adopt you from an orphanage. Or maybe the people that raised you tried for years to have children of their own and after so long, it gets tiring; so they decided to adopt instead. They consider you their own child, they've taken care of you and have raised you for the past thirteen or fourteen years.
I'm glad your brother was able to talk to you and it's perfectly fine to feel angry right now. But please don't shut them out. Consider the alternatives if they hadn't adopted you; isn't your life much better now?
I am sorry you went through this, and feel free to reach out again if you have to.
Take care.
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