[Kate*]

You may be right, but there are ways to say this that aren't rude, or victim-blaming. If you want someone to be receptive to you, your tone matters. "Tough love" and a "suck it up attitude" will turn most people off. And who are you to come in here and tell anyone how to live their lives?! If people venting and posting here, and then not taking the advice they're given bothers you so much, you're welcome to leave anytime (take your own advice and "take control" of your own life). You say you empathize, but this tells me otherwise.