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I guess I'm just after some reassurance, and maybe some personal experiences.

A couple of months ago I stopped seeing my latest therapist, and in thinking back over my history with therapy I realised that I've never actually found it helpful. I think it's likely that it's because I haven't ever found a therapist I clicked with, but I can't help wondering if I'm somehow doing therapy wrong. When I've done it of my own volition I've tried to be a good patient - being honest, doing homework, trying to work with the therapist. But I've never had a session where I had any breakthrough moments or a therapist I actually felt comfortable with.

This last time in particular has made me feel so much worse; it was an uphill battle even getting to see this therapist, and the emotional fallout from it has made me even more reluctant to try again. At first I thought we were getting along but it eventually became clear that it wasn't a good match, and I felt very dismissed and invalidated by the end of it. Being that open and honest with somebody who ended up not listening to me or helping me at all has exacerbated the issues I went to therapy for in the first place, and I'm worried about the effect another failed attempt at getting help may have on my already pretty fragile mental health.

So... yeah. How many misses did you have before you finally got a hit? How long did it take to find a therapist you worked well with, and did the end result outweigh the stress and uncertainty involved? Any insights or anecdotes would be much appreciated.