[TH Anonymous]

[SIZE="a"]Thank you so much for your reply, and for sharing some of your own story with me! It was really helpful. I was also assigned female at birth and sometimes I do feel like a girl. I called myself a femme until recently on dating apps, just because I'm gay but I wear dresses and stuff so I figured that meant I was femme.

I don't think I feel comfortable with the term "trans." My roommate/ex partner is a trans woman and after learning so much about her journey, and the journeys of other trans partners and friends, I don't feel I can claim that label without appropriating it.

I mean I feel that way about this whole thing, honestly. What if I'm just "faking it?" Do I really get to claim a non-binary label if sometimes I do feel like a girl? It's just the rest of the time I don't. I found the term "demigirl" after doing some research and I think that might fit but I don't know.

Another thing is coming out. I've had another name picked out for myself that I've liked for a long time but I've never thought of using it but now I kind of am. It's not that I don't like my birth name but I really identify with the name I picked out. So if I eventually feel like coming out (I'd probably use they/them pronouns) I know my family would have a VERY hard time with that. It's almost easier to stay their daughter, you know? I think they'd feel very upset if I wanted to go by a different name. And my mom flat out told me once she does not grasp the concept of they/them pronouns.

I should also note I feel weird about this because I experience very little dysphoria, if any at all. I like having boobs and hips and stuff. The only thing I really dislike is having periods. Luckily I don't right now because of the birth control I am but I am worried about having them again.

So I guess I'm asking whether this is a valid thing to be exploring or whether I am just appropriate non-binary culture?[/size]