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I've been intimate with guys before, and if I'm honest, not a single one of them has caused me to orgasm. I've either got myself off during intercourse, or faked it.

For me it's a matter of impatience. When I'm there by myself, I can set my own pace. Sometimes I'm there in 2 minutes, 5 minutes, or sometimes I can take a good 20 minutes depending on my mood. Since I'm not able to really set my own pace with sexual partners, I just do the really bad thing of getting myself off when I'm with them or pretending... however horrible it may be.

For the guys I've been with, one took far too long to achieve climax, thinking that 'all girls like that'...which we don't. I don't. Another guy had a lot of sexual partners in the past, and pretty much tarred me with the same brush on how he thought he could make me climax.

Another reason why I can't climax with others is because of fear. When alone I don't have to worry about running out of energy or feeling disappointment if no climax happened... sometimes I lose the mood and I don't really think much on it. But with another person, it's different. I fear that if I don't climax by a certain time they'll get bored or some other thing. I also have a poor history with men, so my mindset is often that 30-minute cut-off where if I don't climax by the time they do I just end up faking it because I don't want to disappoint them.

I can't really answer as to why your girlfriend can't climax other than share my own stories on the matter, but I would strongly suggest you talk to her about it. There may be an underlying cause, some kind of fear... or maybe she just simply doesn't climax in the methods she and you are using.

Talk to your girlfriend and explore different options. Sex isn't all about penetration, it's about foreplay, setting the right mood, and much more. Communicate with her on what feels right for her, and make sure she's being honest so you can get a good idea on what works for her... and what doesn't.