[CrusadingAvenger]

You meet somebody for the first time.

This person looks like they could potentially
be your friend, or possibly even your boyfriend/girlfriend.

Conversation goes really good.

You exchange numbers.

You feel excited because now there’s an
opportunity for you to get to know that person,
and it could be the start of something wonderful.

As soon as you get home, you immediately start
texting the other person. They answer back.

So far, so good.

After messaging that person back and forth for
maybe about a week now, you finally decide you
want to plan something with them and hang out.

They beat around the bush and tell you they’ll
let you know, or worse, they agree to it.

Here you are anticipating the day you’re going
to see that person and hang out, then this happens:

You get a vague text saying they can’t hang out,
or maybe they agreed to hang out, but as 30 minutes
past the time goes by as you’re waiting, they never show up.

You get pissed. You feel frustrated.

Maybe they’re busy, or maybe they just forgot.

You do your best to shrug it off, and decide to
give it another chance, only to find the other person
repeats the same thing again and again, or possibly
they don’t even answer any of your messages.

You think to yourself maybe you’re just not
that good enough of a person to them.

You criticize and question yourself.

You feel sad, and because of this one sour experience,
you generalize that’s the way people will be, so why bother?

I know what it’s like to experience these feelings.

Nobody wants to be ghosted out, and I want you
to know that it happens. There will be people who
simply just don’t have an interest in you.

Sometimes there’s no explanation for why people ghost others out.

If they want you in their life, they will make the
time for you no matter what.

If they keep giving you reasons why not, then
the truth is you’re not important to them.

Don’t allow experiences like this cloud your
judgment, causing you to generalize people.

Don’t allow experiences like this to give you
a reason to be harsh on yourself for something
that wasn’t even your own fault.

I understand it’s hard to trust someone, it’s hard
to know who’s real and who’s not, but just so you
don’t get disappointed so easily…

Don’t have expectations upfront.

When we have high expectations, we’re only
setting ourselves up for disappointment later on.

If you’re important to the other person, they’ll make the time.

If you feel like you’re always the one attempting
to get their attention and want them to spend time with you,
it’s best to pause, re-evaluate, accept and let go.

If there’s truly something there with that person,
it will develop naturally, and you won’t feel like
you’re trying so hard to get even a minute of their time.

If they care, they will notice and reach out.

If they don’t care, they will not even know you even existed in the first place.