[Celyn]

Sorry to hear about the situation with your mother. I can't imagine how stressful and frustrating it must be to work, look after your son, and do all the cooking and cleaning while your mother volunteers to babysit and nothing more. That's not fair on you at all.

Do you know if your mother has any mental health problems? Sometimes if someone is depressed, they may struggle with things. If it's likely that your mother has mental health issues, then it would be best for her to seek treatment.

It sounds like you need to have a good talk with your mother. If it's really difficult to get your mother to do things without it turning into an argument, you may want to try to compromise. For example, ask her if she can cook on certain nights, or give her a choice of cooking or cleaning. If she doesn't, then you may want to consider cooking for yourself and your son, and leaving your mother to cook for herself. Let her know that you feel stressed with work and would appreciate her to help out more. Be specific in what you want help with and let her know that you are willing to compromise. But if she doesn't cooperate then you might want to let her know that you're not willing to take on extra work for her, when at the very least she can do things for herself.