Sorry for adding to the edits, I didn't realise Haley was working on the article at the same time.
Depression around my Bbirthday
By: Essa (MerESSAmaid)
Birthdays are normally a day that people really look forward to. However, I know that some people really dread them and become depressed when they are coming up. I myself am one of those people that get anxious and depressed when my birthday is coming up. I am going to explain why I think this happens and how I plan on stopping the things that typically happen for me this time of year.
When my birthday is coming around I get excited but I also get nervous. Ever since my 18th birthday it has become something I have mixed feelings about; I never thought I would make it to my 18th birthday and when I did I was excited but surprised at the same time. Therefore, since then I become depressed and most of the time end up on a 51/50, which is when you are put on a 72 hour hold in the psych hospital, when this time of year comes.
I was talking to my therapist the other day about this, and we explored the reasons on why I think this happens. I have come to the conclusion that it is because I expect more from the day and I end up being let down by those expectations. I don’t have friends to celebrate my birthday with, and every year it seems like I get
less fewer and
less fewer people wishing me a happy birthday. I always hope that my best friend who is like a sister to me will say happy birthday, but she typically doesn’t and that really disappoints me. See, birthdays for me used to be big pool parties with friends and once I got older they would include sleepovers. But now that I am older I do not do anything for my birthday besides a birthday dinner and cake.
You know how you always look forward to your birthday presents? [I would recommend rephrasing this to something more like ''Many people look forward to receiving presents on their birthday'' since there are probably going to be readers who, for one reason or another, don't always look forward to their birthday presents.] Since I have gotten older most of the time I am the one that picks them out, so I know exactly what I am getting. I always hope that there will be at least one surprise present but most of the time there isn’t. So, this is another thing that I
make a big deal out of but it never turns out to be a
big deal at all.
[This doesn't seem very clear. Do you mean that this is another situation where you have expectations that never seem to be met?]
I almost always get so depressed that I do not know how to handle it and get suicidal and end up on a 51/50 hold. This year I plan on making sure
that, that doesn’t happen.
[This might work better if you phrases it more like ''making sure that I avoid this''.] I think I have put some good plans into place.
Since Mmy mom has taken the day off work
;, we are going to have a mommy/daughter day while my sister stays with my grandparents because she normally ends up ruining the day for me in some way. We are going to be going to the zoo since we have free tickets and I have been wanting to go for a while now. After I spend most of the day with her, we are going to come home and have my birthday dinner and cake.
fFollowing my birthday,
I will go back to doing the things I normally do.
[This still doesn't seem to flow all that well. Maybe you could say something like ''I will go back to my regular routine''?]
I really hope this works and I can stay out of the hospital. If this happens to you my advice
to you would be to try to make plans on your birthday
so you know exactly what you are going to do, that way you won’t be disappointed.
[It might be a good idea to mention something about not being too hung up on the details in case the day still doesn't go exactly as you planned.] I would also suggest spending time with the people you love, and surrounding yourself with love and support from family members and friends. Do not get so hung up on how many happy birthdays you get on your social media accounts. Just try to enjoy the day.
[Could you add some advice for people who may not be able to spend time with loved ones on the day? You could mention how to have a good day if you spend it on your own and that it might be beneficial to plan events with loved ones for another day so you have something to look forward to.]
This is how I plan on not going into a depression and ending up in the hospital for my birthday. If you face this struggle of becoming depressed around your birthday,
Ttry and keep yourself busy when it rolls around.
[Could you also mention something about lowering your expectations so you're not disappointed, or making sure you're in charge of the day so that you have control over how it turns out?]