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Re: My boyfriend physically hurt me -
September 19th 2017, 06:34 AM
The most concerning thing is that he said "Just know that his situation wasn't your fault, but this one is. So when I do this in the future, just know it's because of something you did" He is blaming you and saying that it will happen again. He isn't trying to apologize and say how sorry he is like a number of abusers do he is letting you know that it will happen again but when it does he is not to blame.
I know he might have done some really great things for you in the past but please get away because this will continue to happen and it is likely something that will get worse. The fact that he is letting you know that this is going to happen again is also concerning because it shows, without a doubt, that he does not see anything wrong with his behavior and does not have any intention of changing. While I personally do not think an abusive person can ever really change ... I do think that if there is any chance of the abuser changing ... they have to know they have a problem and be willing to seek help. He is not going to be willing to see it as a problem and because of that he won't change.
No matter how good he has been to you in the past; the moment he put his hands on you like that was the moment that those good things stopped being important.
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