[Celyn]

Hey there (and welcome to TeenHelp!)

It's touching to see how much you want to help your girlfriend!

I'm sorry to hear that she struggles with anxiety, depression and self-harm. Understandably you would be worried about her hurting herself. Perhaps to help with the self-harm, you try to encourage her to look into alternatives and distractions. We have some ideas for alternatives here. Anxiety attacks can be very scary to go through, but remind your girlfriend that even though they feel horrible, they are harmless. Perhaps encourage her to deep breathing exercises, or listen to relaxing music. Also, let her know that it's totally okay (and healthy) to cry if she feels like it.

It's great that she has a therapist, though I understand it must be frustrating that she has to wait to see her. Is there anyone else that she can talk to, such as a relative, teacher, school counsellor? If not, she can try contacting hotlines instead, and we have a few suggestions here.

It's great that you've taken an interest in your girlfriends mental health, and want to support her. But it's also good to try to avoid self-diagnosing too, though I understand your concerns.

It must be so heart breaking for you to watch your girlfriend suffer and worry both about her and the future of the relationship. However, if she does break up with you, though it will be very upsetting, it can help to remember that it's more likely to do with her struggles than with you personally. As hard as it may be, if she does want a break from the relationship, then she may see it as better for you both when she might not be feeing very stable. Whatever happens, you'll both get through this.

Speaking of which, I understand that this must be a very difficult situation to be in, and it's lovely that you want to help your girlfriend. But you also need to look after yourself, especially since you have depression and anxiety. Take the time to do all the usual things that you do, including eating and sleeping, even if you don't feel like it.