[Brandon]

If you want to do what a man should do, then you should stop messing around with another man's chick, find someone who is actually single, and compatible with you. As a man, you don't fall in love with women who are committed to someone else.

1. It's downright disrespectful to mess with another man's woman &
2. It's plain dumb to fall in love with a woman who doesn't actually commit.

Being with someone isn't commitment. Faithfulness and trust is part of commitment because it's the willingness to make sacrifices. As a committed man, the temptations don't go away. The opportunities don't disappear; in fact, I actually think women find you more attractive when you're in a relationship. But there's a difference between having temptations and acting on temptations -- that's where the real commitment comes in.

Unless your female friend has an open relationship with this dude, the interactions she has with you is downright inappropriate. It's inappropriate because it's sketchy behavior; it's sending you mixed signals. It's one thing for my girlfriend to wear make up to look good in public, but if she's got a guy falling in love with her, that's backstabbing both YOU and her boyfriend.

Most women aren't stupid. Most of them are very good at social cues and whatnot. In an evolutionary perspective, they had to be. If you're falling in love with a woman, 9 times out of 10...she knows. If she isn't doing anything about it, she's encouraging it. It's called being pussy-whipped, in a man's perspective. She knows she's got power over you, and just kinda strangling you and her boyfriend along for the ride.

You really don't wanna play that game.

It's 2017, my friend. We don't guess anymore. It's not a matter of "what if's" anymore. As a man, you put your foot down. You've been cheated on before. It's not okay. But what you're doing is essentially what a fuckboy would do, you're falling in love with a committed woman. You know this, but you always try to find a reason to justify your behavior. It isn't justified. She's taken, bro. Plain and simple. And she's gonna fuck with other dudes just like you if you and her get into a relationship.

Do yourself a favor. Earn some respect for yourself, find yourself a good woman, and you won't regret it. Women come and go. You lose one, you get another one. Every woman is unique and therefore every love you have is unique. It's life. Shit happens. You'll be fine, better even, when you find a better woman for you.