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Well you're 13 so I think it's normal.

But the anxiety part I see as a separate problem, and possibly a much more important problem to focus on. If I understand correctly this is social anxiety, as in anxiety about interacting with other people, especially girls, which I'd love to give you tips on, except I'm not very good at it myself, so I'm not a very good role model.

Anyway it's normal as a teen male to have an ungodly endless desire to think about sex all the time. That's just the curse of evolution.

As for porn, I could suggest focus on stuff that shows that women enjoy sex too, and seek to understand how women enjoy sex, but enjoy it somewhat differently then men. Seek to feel the whole woman as a person, not just a body. Focus on the woman's face and seek to know her as a person.

As for anxiety, the best suggestion I have is try some Mindfulness Meditation. Start with one minute. Just focus your full attention on the present moment. See if you can do that for one minute. There's an app called "Headspace" you can download onto your cell phone. There are short animated videos at the beginning of lessons 3, 5, 7, & 9 which explain the idea. This will slowly train your brain in a way which strengthens a certain part of it which will have the side effect of lowering your social anxiety (pretty neat trick!)

Best wishes!