[Kate*]

I suppose I can only blame you for part of this, but I absolutely will not excuse any of your part in it. You did severe damage to me, which is more than a little ironic. The fact that you've gotten away with this stuff and worse, probably for decades, doesn't make any of it okay. The fact that you can make it my fault somehow doesn't mean that it actually was.
I would love to hold you accountable. Because as much as you victim blame the people you treat like crap, you deserve to have to own your own behavior like you tell everyone else to do. It applies to you just as much, if not more than everyone else. This is why I believe in Karma.