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Originally Posted by Skyline
del677's post is pretty wise... try and enjoy what you have now as much as possible. Then, just before he leaves, I suggest that you both have a sincere talk about what you mean to each other and how much effort you'd be prepared to put into a long-distance relationship. Let go of your ego and try to be as honest as possible, even if it means being vulnerable. If it turns out that you're both 110% up for the challenge of making a long-distance relationship work, if you both believe in it, then go for it. Otherwise, let it go as gracefully as possible.
I'm in a similar situation to you, because in just over a month me and my boyfriend will be starting our undergraduate studies, and the course he is taking is super intense and doesn't leave much room for a social life since he'll have to be studying almost constantly, so we may well have to end things. I've decided to live in the present as much as possible and to deal with that problem when the time comes. I know one of the things which scares me the most about this -- and which I imagine may be causing you some trouble too -- is the fear that I won't find someone quite like him, who gets along so well with me. There's this fear that if I let go of what I have now, I'll never find anything as good or better. When I think of that I just remind myself that there are tons of people out there, some who are more compatible with me in some ways than he is, and who are less compatible in others.
Just know that everything will work out fine.
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this is great advice. thank you.