Re: Say something you wish you could say to their face. -
May 3rd 2017, 03:58 AM
Suggestions for dealing with this in a mature, respectful manner:
- if you have an issue with me, bring it up with me in private rather than calling me out in a group chat and then leaving because you ''have a lot on your plate'' (also: remember that you are not the only one dealing with a lot at the moment and that doesn't give you a right to lash out at others)
- if you're going to accuse me of acting a certain way, please back it up with evidence instead of vague statements; I can't understand where you're coming from unless you point out specific instances where I did whatever you're saying I did
- try to keep in mind that you're only speaking from your perspective and that other people have their own unique views; your feelings and thoughts are entirely valid but that doesn't mean you can use them to belittle or dismiss me (or anyone else)
- instead of waiting until you reach a breaking point and then unleashing all your bottled up emotions at once, maybe try talking to me about them when they first become an issue so we can work together on trying to solve the issue before it becomes a real problem
- remember that you are speaking to a real, living person who has feelings and priorities and a lot going on right now, and if you want to keep this friendship it might be a good idea to start acting like a friend and stop expecting everyone to accommodate every single mistake or bad decision you make
"Love means never having to say you're a werewolf."
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